New Blog: Cakes and a Cocktail


To all my followers old and new, first I would like to say thank you for showing interest and visiting me as I rant and rave about life.  Second I hope you follow me over to my new site Cakes and a Cocktail

I love wipingbuttsandtakingnames but I just needed a change…a new name, new look and to talk about some new things.  I’m the same girl with the same sense of humor only now with a 4 year old (woohooo! not as much butt wiping these days) and a wee bit more experience and much more comedic material in parenting AND DRINKING (just kidding, kinda, not really, seriously though) and a lot more interest in getting back to myself, if you know what I mean.

So please do me a favor and check it out and if you like what you read follow/subscribe/share/tell a friend to tell a friend.  I appreciate ya!  😉






Jam of the Week: Ultralight Beam

If you know me personally or learned anything about me from my blog you know 3 facts:

  2. I love Kanye West and all his antics!
  3. I kind of have impeccable taste when it comes to music.

With that said this song is so amazeballs it brought me out of blog hiding.  I had to get back on the grid to share this with you.

Ultralight Beam to me is as close to musical perfection as I’ve heard in a really long time.  From the choir (who doesn’t love a choir) to Kelly Price’s strong and powerful voice, The Dream’s uniquely odd but just right for this track vocals to Kirk Franklin making you feel like you got some church to last but definitely not least Chance the Rapper losing his gotdamn mind and going off like he was hit with the holy ghost.  This song is EVERYTHING!

Kanye performed this past weekend on Saturday Night Live and they all gave an awesome performance.  (I love how Kanye steps back and goes off to Chance going off).


Song: Ultralight Beam

Artist: Kanye West ft. The Dream, Kelly Price, Chance the Rapper and Kirk Franklin.

Album: The Life of Pablo


video courtesy of NBC.COM/Saturday Night Live

Wild hair don’t care: avocado and olive oil deep conditioner

In my quest to better understand and care for babygirl’s natural hair I did something I never thought I would do, watch YouTube tutorials!!!!!  Not that I’ve ever had anything against YouTube tutorials, my sis’zin Erica who also happens to be my natural hair goddess and my sissy Kay swear by said hair tutorials as well as my sissy Shante who has picked up some pretty dope makeup tips from YouTube tutorials, it’s just that I couldn’t figure out where would you begin.   Well it’s begun and I don’t know how to stop.   It’s like an information super highway and like a kid in a candy store I wanna try everything now (in my best Veruca Salt voice).  I came across a vlog that brags diy hair treatments with common items that most people have in their homes or can easily find in a store, from my previous posts you know that convenience in finding ingredients for cooking and now for hair treatments are very important to me so that’s kind of a big deal for me.  

My first experiment was a deep conditioner which ingredients were as easy as they come, one whole avocado and extra virgin olive oil. That’s it! Note to readers: Moscato is not one of the ingredients. Extra note to readers get a ripe fairly soft avocado as it’s easier to “mash and mush”.

The deep conditioner calls for 1 avocado and 2 tablespoons of extra virgin olive oil. 

 Where I went wrong is confusing this mix for something to eat instead of something to put in your hair and so I didn’t use a mixer to get it to a creamy texture. I kept thinking guacamole (fat girl problems).  So with me mixing by hand instead of using a hand mixer (yes party people there is a difference lol) my mixture looked a lil something like guacamole. 

I thought it was pretty creamy and good to go (again remember I’m thinking guacomole not conditioner) in retrospect I wish I would have used a hand mixer except I don’t own one of those.  So I proceeded to apply to her hair root to tip chunks and all and put a cap on. The instructions said to leave on for 45 minutes to an hour.

Typically after a wash and conditioner babygirl’s hair shrinks and is so dry looking that it looks matted but after the avocado/evoo deep conditioner her hair shrinkage was only half of what it usually is and looked very shiny and hydrated, I mean hydrated to the point that I could see water beads lingering in her hair after it was all rinsed out.  Even Mr. Grumps notified the difference.

I then followed up with the LOC method and styled her hair. 

That shine tho! 

The majority of the tutorials and vlogs that I viewed mentioned not to expect results the first time you try styling methods and products on your hair which isn’t a problem for me because I’m skeptical. But I must admit that the first time was a charm with this diy deep conditioner and I will be using this deep conditioner on a monthly basis (with a hand mixer of course). 

Do you ever view YouTube tutorials and if so are they helpful to you? What are some of your go to hair treatments and methods? 

No worries….I got this! 

BEAUTY REVIEW: Beauty 360 Oatmeal & Avocado Face Mask

Stress is wreaking all sorts of havoc on my skin. I’ve been fortunate enough in my 36 years on planet earth to not suffer from any sort of acne, pimples or breakouts and I’ll be got damned if I start now. I’ve been in the market for some sort of mask that will help detoxify and jumpstart operation fresh face and after doing some online research I’m really tempted to try that new mask called Glam Glow but as quickly as I talk myself into trying it I think about the amount of groceries I can get with the cost of Glam Glow (I’ve seen it retail from $50-$70) and well let’s just say I ain’t about that life. I’ve even found a couple of diy facials that interest me but they call for ingredients I’m not really interested in searching high and low for.


While shopping in CVS today this sample mask caught my eye. I was intrigued mostly because I don’t have to invest in a whole tub of it only to try it and not like it and also because it features ingredients I was researching in the diy recipes. Oatmeal to help heal blemishes and damaged skin and avocado to deep clean and moisturize my skin and the clay of course that gets deep down in the pores and also gives your face a mini lift.


The package didn’t say how long to keep the mask on but I planned to leave it on for 30 minutes while I finished up on housework. The packaging was easy to open and not messy at all and the mask was super easy to apply. When I applied there was a couple of minutes of tingling that at first made me nervous but then it stopped so I took it as being a sign that it was working. Of course I took advantage of the mask and walked around the house attempting to scare babygirl, epic fail, she didn’t blink. Mr. Grumps on the other hand got the living bejesus scared out of him. The timing didn’t go down as planned and I ended up falling asleep for a couple hours.

Fast forward to the unveiling, the mask washed off with crazy ease which I appreciate, I’ve tried masks that you basically have to rub your skin damn near raw to get off so that’s a plus. My skin looked a little brighter and it didn’t sting which is a big deal for me because my skin is super sensitive. MOST importantly since I got my nose pierced a couple of months back I have to be very gentle and careful not to disrupt the piercing when I wash my face, so I haven’t been able to scrub the way I like to which has caused a serious black head issue on my nose. I tried the garnier blackhead face wash with charcoal and the nivea blackhead face wash and let’s just say both have since been added to my pile of “shit that doesn’t work” but this mask singlehandedly and wholeheartedly tackled my blackhead issue and it is no more, like gone, like blackhead who, gone. No scrubbing necessary. I realized now that I should have taken before and after pictures. I will update a little later.

So if you were to ask me if I’d try Beauty 360 Oatmeal & Avocado Face Mask again, I’d say hell yeah. If you asked me if I would refer or suggest it to a friend, I’d say I think I already have.

Until next time lovies.

Don’t worry….I got this!

Walking In Faith


To say that my faith has been tested this summer would be a complete and total understatement. It seems as though whenever we (Mr. Grumps & I) get over one hurdle another hurdle comes along that makes me think damn I thought that last hurdle was big, this one’s even bigger. But I know that trouble doesn’t last always and so I walk in faith.

Some mornings I feel like I just don’t have it in me to face the day. But I know that someone somewhere wasn’t blessed enough to wake up. And so I say my prayers, I get up and I walk in faith.

I find myself asking “why us Lord”. But I know that HE must be working on something greater and so I say thy will be done and I walk in faith.

Sometimes I catch myself worrying. But I know that I can’t pray AND worry. And so I cast my worries aside and I walk in faith.

Walking in faith is not easy to do especially when the majority of us feel like we have control over or can control everything that goes on. But like my granny always tells me “If God brought you to it then He will bring you through it”. And so I continue to walk in faith.

I hope that someone reads this and is reminded of how almighty the Lord is and walks in faith.

No Worries…..God’s got this!

Jam of the Week (Play No Games)

I’ve been loving this song for a month or two now it’s just a dope laid back kinda old school flow and I am so glad it now has a video for me to share with you.  Big Sean is winning me over consistently with every song he drops.  Enjoy!

Song: Play No Games

Artist: Big Sean

Album: Dark Sky Paradise

Jam of the Week…..Classic Man

First let me say Hello!

Alot of us have grown sick and gotdamn tired of looking at the skinny jeans, hanging off the butt, I can see your boxer briefs, damn his pants tighter than mine, can guys get yeast infections look that in more cases than not has become the look of Hip Hop.  In walks Jidenna the breath of motherloving fresh air we’ve all been hoping for.  I love that he looks nothing like what we’ve grown accustomed to seeing as Hip Hop.  Can he be on to something? Lort I hope so, I wouldn’t mind seeing dudes sharpen up!  Oh and I also love the song.  Enjoy!

Song: Classic Man

Artist: Jidenna